I wanted to expand on this as in it appalls me when I see women marrying in white dresses for purity, spending lots of money on one day at the altar in purity, when in fact they are not, they have been sexually active with that partner and it seems everyone thinks that sex out of wedlock is justified if you have a "steady" boyfriend or you are "engaged", "betrothed"...NOT SO...no where in the Bible does God say "if you have a steady or a fiancee' or fiance' its ok to have sex. You either marry or you do not have sex. PERIOD! Let 's be real...now we know that the world does not work this way..but these are the facts.

I have five grown children, and five young grandchildren. I am pretty certain that none of my children were virgins when they married. I know that I wasn't. The world today makes this a very difficult thing to achieve. Don't get me wrong; I believe that God's way is the right way and that this is a sinful thing. However, it is a great reality for our families and our church. We all have things for which we seek forgiveness, and I suspect that many, if not most, Christians have this one on "their resume". So Yendor; yes we need to GET REAL. Unfortunately, REAL involves both helping young people stay pure, but also helping them to understand that their sins can be washed away.....they can be forgiven.....they can move on to have happy, healthy, faithful Christian marriages. God's love and grace available by and through our Lord's ultimate sacrifice is available to all who will confess their sins, seek his forgiveness and turn their lives over to Him.

Yendor, Isn't the white wedding gown a man created tradition? Does the Bible require that only virgins wear white for the wedding ceremony? Yes, it is a nice thought that it could be the reward they get for waiting but I think in reality it never has worked this way. Probably some who were pregnant have even worn white. What color do you think the non-virgins should wear? I am just glad to see a couple honoring God by choosing to marry and be in the bounds of His best way to live. Perhaps the white dress could be celebrated as an indication of commitment to a future life of purity as sins have been washed away by the blood of Jesus.

Yes it is better if virgins will remain that way until they marry but it doesn't allways happen that way. I know everyone has their own opinion about what the sin might be concerning the bride and groom and the white dress but lets look at what the Bible says.. 1Cor 7:36 But if any man think he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry. Again I say it would be better if they wait, but it seems there are two kinds of daters today, the caught and the uncaught. Society does put a lot of pressure on people today, sex is on the pages of most magazines, tv shows and movies. This is not to say it is okay but after awhile a body gets to where it just gives in. If a person wants to be as Paul then they need to follow his advice. Have a great day

I live in a long term drug and alcohol center in Portland, and it isn't my first. In all the programs i have been in no one teaches this secular or christian, escept this one. These 6 guidelines are what we have pulled from the scripture to help us in our struggle. What we are finding is that 80-90 percent of our drug addicts, especial meth, suffer from sexual addiction as a primary addiction and the drugs were just there to help facilitate that. Out of loss comes addiction to anything an dsexual addiction stems from a fear that no one loves me, they wont love me if they know, and i am to dirty for God to really care about. God had to show me that he does care, and that he has help for me. thank you for your devotion!